Choice of friends

நிறைநீர நீரவர் கேண்மை பிறைமதிப்

பின்நீர பேதையார் நட்பு.

The friendship of the wise waxes like the new moon, but that of the fool wanes like the full moon. Kural 782

The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray. Proverbs 12:26

How often have we realised about the toxic nature of certain relationships, where the people we call besties tear down our confidence and make us feel small. It might be unintentional, but callousness is also a type of cruelty. But we often choose to hang out with these type of friends, despite the negative effect for popularity of external appearance and this destroys us bit by bit. We start saying and doing things which are out of character for us. Peer pressure can destroy us, if we are not careful abot our choice of friends.

I would like to take this opportunity to appreciate the few genuine friends I do have. The test of a real friend is time and the good ones stand by you through fire and brimstone. These are the friends who have supported me through all my stupid decisions, stuck by during the bad times, called me out when I was behaving like an idiot. These are the people who have built me up and I can only hope they feel the same way about me.

We take so much time to decide on our life partner, rightfully so. I feel that atleast a fraction of that should go into the process of choosing our friends. The old adage of show me your friend and I will tell you who you are is true. In this age where most friendships are made online special care should be taken before trusting someone and calling them a friend. I hope and pray God gives me the wisdom and discernment to chose friends carefully and also to cherish the ones I already have.

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